I want to be like them.
You know the ones.
The people who everyone wants to get to know.
Charismatic I think is the word.
I feel like I'm going through life unknown to the world.
I pop in and out of people's life as if I wasn't even there.
There are so many charismatic people that I know.
In high school they were prevalent.
I tried to join their group of friends.
To get to know them.
And them get to know me.
I have always felt shunned.
Maybe I'm imagining it.
Maybe not.
No one seems to really want to truly know me.
I'm just a person.
A never-ending wall flower.
Am I hiding?
Am I imagining this?
I feel so uninvolved and unaccepted.
No one reaches out to know me.
So I delve deeper in myself, thinking that no one cares anyway.
How do they do it?
How can some people be so charismatic that everyone wants to be their friend?
While others are never-ending wall flowers.
What makes one draw to someone else?
What makes up a person?
Why do I feel this way?
3 comments:
I'm glad I found your blog so I CAN get to know you better. But I too, have a hard time being that social butterfly instead of the wallflower myself... it's just not in my personality DNA to be overly outgoing though I do try and improve that at times.
You are important. You do matter.
I know what you mean. us wall flowers should stick together. it's easy for me to see why I fade into the background. sometimes I am just waiting for someone to talk to me first. perhaps because we don't always let people get to know us we feel like no one wants to.
I've found that I feel more charismatic when I'm not focused on myself. It takes a big effort for me to be out serving, asking people about them, making others feel comfortable, and forgetting about what an idiot I look/sound/feel like...
But as long as you can do all that without passing judgment, people will feel comfortable around you. Others will even notice that you took someone else's details (who they are, where they are in life, what they're doing) in stride and will feel more willing to open up. They'll also become willing to share themselves with you.
However, I don't think charisma is synonomous with people knowing you - if I think about some of the most charismatic people I know, I don't really know all that much about their lives... They're too busy asking about mine. And I'd dare say that those who believe me to be charismatic don't know the details of my life at all.
In my opinion, people become charismatic because they care about others, not because they're worried that others don't care about them as much as they'd like. No doubt is it a difficult tight rope to walk, but very possible with some practice.
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